Anger is the most common destructive emotion in conflicts.

Although generally anger would rather be avoided, it nevertheless gives signals and important information in the conflict.
An appropriate and intelligent response to a conflict situation that arouses anger is primarily becoming fully aware of our emotional state so that WE guide our behaviour and words, rather than being guided by destructive emotions.

Intelligent anger management is most likely in a happy medium: to both avoid violent responses that tend to make us easily lose control, and being “a hero of self-control and self-suppression”. Reacting with emotional intelligence means knowing what the physical and psychological consequences of certain emotional responses and self-denial may be, when and how an emotional response can be practical, and when not. Openly demonstrating feelings such as anger and rage has a positive and liberating effect on the psyche and body, but only on the condition that we know how to take control of the situation. It is essential is to trust your ability to regulate and actively manage emotions (which means being able to act).